When it comes to student recruitment, it’s tempting to use the classic “yes, we can do it all” approach. Add in the ‘we have x, y and z options’ we present we're missing a trick.  Here's the thing: that’s transactional selling – and whilst it might seem like a quick way to sign up students, it’s not a sustainable or ethical method. Transformational selling, on the other hand, is where the magic lies. It converts well, retains students and gains superfans.

So, what’s the difference? Let’s have a look.

Transactional Selling vs. Transformational Selling

Transactional selling is the default for many – you’re focused on closing that one family, often without truly understanding if that school or program is the right fit. You're busy thinking if they fit in with what YOU have on offer.

Think of it as the fast-food approach to sales: quick, often unqualified, and sometimes a little greasy. It’s easy to find these people online, sending cold DMs or insisting they’re the answer before diagnosing the issue. And they are disguised, too, often you’ll see them looking like they’re asking great questions but they’re really not even listening, they’re trying to make their school or program right, without wanting to ‘disqualify’ an enquiry. In reality, transactional selling doesn’t fully (and sincerely) consider the individual needs of families or students, and it risks leaving them (and you) dissatisfied in the long run. Don’t forget, we’re aiming for retention and referrals too.

Transformational selling, however, takes a completely different approach. Here, you enter every conversation with an open mind, genuinely listening to whether your offer is the best fit for that family. In student recruitment, this is gold – because you’re not just selling a school or program, you’re helping them find the right educational experience for themselves or their child.

Not just for that child or person, either, but their entire network of family and friends!

Honesty and Transparency Build Trust

When you’re recruiting students, families want to feel confident about entrusting their child’s education to you. By openly admitting when this program might not be the right fit, or that school isn’t quite right for them, you instantly differentiate yourself. When you say things like, “I’m not sure if we’re right for you yet – let’s find out together,” you’re stepping away from 'selling' a school or program. This honesty lowers resistance and builds a sense of trust, which is crucial for families making such a big decision.

I’m a big fan of finding out early if people are a fit or not - and there’s nothing wrong if they’re not - we treat them well but we spend time on the ones that are more likely to benefit from our offer.

Take the Pressure Off the ‘Sale’

Ever had a conversation with a salesperson who gave you an “out” right at the start? Probably not. When families hear that it’s OK to say “no” at any point in the process, they breathe easier. Giving them that space removes the pressure and positions you as an advisor, not just a seller. And funny enough, that lack of pressure actually makes it easier for them to say “yes” if it’s the right fit! This takes confidence in your school or program and will save you time if they decided they’re not going ahead and can just tell you.

That said, I love to keep following-up - just in a less frequent manner because they are now advocates for your fabulously honest approach and may want to go ahead later, and may refer you to others.

Avoiding the ‘Tyre-Kicker’ Trap

When you use transformational selling, you won’t end up spending hours with prospects who are just “shopping around.” By making it clear that you’re looking for a true fit, you naturally filter out those who aren’t serious about enrolment. This isn’t just a time-saver – it preserves your energy and leaves you feeling good about each connection, rather than exhausted by endless conversations with information-gatherers. Again, they can just go into a different workflow to keep them warm, but your energy is directed to where it matters.

Let Selling Feel Like Advising 

We love this in our sector. In student recruitment, transformational selling lets you relax into the role of advisor. Families respect that openness and respond positively to it. Imagine the impact: instead of “selling,” you’re having real conversations about what’s best for their child’s future. It’s more enjoyable for you, and it’s a more comfortable experience for the family. When you embrace transformational selling, selling no longer feels like “selling” – it feels like making a difference.

Caveat: You are still aiming for the enrolment! Don’t end up being so helpful and in that advisor-only role that you don’t keep your eyes on the end result. I’ve said it many times.. 

Selling isn’t just helping, it’s selling. You have goals to hit and you cannot afford to just be politely helpful and wait for the enrolments to make themselves.

5 Transformational Selling Tips for Ethical and Effective Student Recruitment

As always, I want to give you some stuff you can actually use! So, here are five actionable tips to make transformational selling work for you in education.

1. Ask, Don’t Assume

Before diving into the features of your program or school, start by truly understanding the family’s needs. Ask open-ended questions like, “What are your top priorities in choosing a school?” or “Can you tell me what matters most for your child’s learning environment?” This helps you understand what they’re looking for without assuming that your school is the right fit. As I train my agents.. ‘Take one more minute’ to be truly curious about the emotions behind the enquiry.

2. Be Willing to Walk Away

This might sound counterintuitive, but it’s powerful: if your school or programme isn’t the best match, let them know. “I think there might be better options for your child based on what you’ve told me” shows integrity and positions you as a trusted advisor. Families appreciate this honesty and may return when they find a friend or relative who’s looking for exactly what you offer. If you are not the right-fit, refer them to another provider. You can also keep them ‘warm’ in a separate work-flow of course.

3. Create Clear ‘Opt-In-Or-Opt-Out’ Points

From the very start, reassure families that they’re under no obligation to proceed. You might say, “Let's make sure we get you what you need. At any point, if you feel something isn’t a fit, just let me know and we can explore that.” This sets the tone for an open, non-pressured interaction and lets families feel in control. Ironically, providing an easy “out” makes them more likely to trust and continue the process with you. Equally, throughout the conversation gain those ‘Opt-Ins’ by mirroring their requirements back to them and checking they’re in agreement as you go through - no monologues!

4. Focus on Their Vision, Not Your Selling Points

It’s easy to rattle off your features, why they should use your agency or attend your school, but transformational selling flips this approach. Instead, delve into their hopes for their learning. Ask them, “What does success look like for you?” or “What kind of environment do you think they’ll/you’ll thrive in?” or “If you go to this school/have this trip, what will this mean to you in 5 years’ time?” By connecting your offerings to their vision, you’re making the process more personal and relevant.

5. Be Genuine in Your Follow-Ups

If a family says, “We’ll think about it,” don’t just chase them down with generic follow-ups. Instead, send a personalised message that reminds them you care about their journey. You can still use templates if you know your ‘ideal client avatars’ well, but personalise the first part at least referring to your past conversations.

This type of follow-up doesn’t feel pushy – it feels supportive.

By following these transformational selling tips, you’re setting yourself apart from the crowd, creating genuine relationships, and making a difference in the student recruitment process. Whether you’re a school admissions officer or an education consultant, transformational selling is the way forward for ethical, effective enrolments. Families will remember and appreciate your honesty, making them more likely to recommend you to others and come back when the time is right.

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